Hey guys, I know I’ve been gone for a while, but I do have valid reasons: Summer geo, going to Europe for two weeks (I don’t know if I’m going to blog it or not yet), hectic beginning of the school year, and trying to remake and help myself.
But either way, I’m back now, and I’m going to soon put three new blogposts up: This one and two movie reviews to get things going again.
Now, you might be wondering why the hell I am talking about this but it’s because it is a message out to the parents. You might have a perfect relationship with them, but not everyone does. Oh, and if you think I’m just being bitchy, then… You can leave, because this is my blogpost and I’m going to talk about what I want because I have my reasons and I don’t need to publicize them for everybody’s sake.
The Divorce:
- I have friends who’s parents are divorced and it hurts, it really does. I know that you probably feel very guilty a lot of you, but money doesn’t do anything. If you constantly lavish them because you feel bad that isn’t great: they might be angry at you, but you NEED to spend time with them. Also, flashback twenty minus years: DON’T BE SELFISH. Don’t have sex for the fun of it or because you are oh-so-in-love, be mindful that there are consequences such as: STD or a child. Most of the time, it’s probably not even true love honey, it’s you being hormonal. So be careful about what you do because it doesn’t only affect you but millions of other people, whether you know it or not.
The busy parents:
- You’re never around so you sprinkle them with gifts as a replacement of love. Money is great, but it’ll never add up. All the birthday parties, and Christmas’s that you miss for work… Instead of being with your family or you child? Wow. Selfish. You need to learn to spend time with them because whether you know it or not, they (will) hold a gigantic grudge against you. They will never forget those days where you stranded them for work, and they sure as hell will never grow up to be like you. They’d rather be a stay at home mom/dad than be constantly away making millions (according to an anonymous friend.)
The parents who are always on their children:
- These are the parents that are constantly inquiring about grades, that won’t let them hang out with other people then complain that they aren’t social, the parents that don’t trust that they are responsible enough to stay home by themselves for an hour, and that force them into things without asking for their permission because a) you’re living the life you wanted through your kid or b) you think you know EVERYTHING about them and you ALWAYS know what’s right for them.
- Wanting your child to be the best is great, but is it when you realize that all your hounding on them is actually doing the opposite of benefiting them? It’s actually putting a lot of pressure on them and many go into a depression and have mental instability because of this. Look at Silicon Valley, it’s a mess despite what people think. You have to be chill once in a while or people will lapse into this horrible conundrum at such a young age and goodness knows what that might lead to.
- Overprotective parents OHMYGOSH. You always say, “You need to grow up/make your own mistakes/do things on your own.” But, you’re not letting your child do that! You don’t let them socialize with people which isn’t unhealthy and they have no connections in case anything happens to them, and also, it’s great that you want to protect us but you have to let us grow up. We don’t want you pushing us, we want you walking beside us. And, I know you might be scared, but… Suck it up. You have to let us go and make our own mistakes, or we won’t know how to handle… LIFE when we’re older.
- Now I get it, if your child is really reckless but by the age of thirteen, you’ve got to give them a chance or they will honestly DISLIKE YOU TO PIECES AND YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK.
- This one is a big one: Forcing them into things. For example, piano. So many asians including me play piano. Parents always say that we’ll appreciate it when you’re older because you’ll have learned how to be responsible and work hard, but we’re not going to do that if we hate it. You always say, ‘This is how life works. You have to do things you don’t like,” but honestly, YOU WILL GET YOURSELF INTO THE MESS NOT OTHER PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY YOUR MOM OR DAD. Anyways, if we hate the thing, we will do our best to rebel against it and to wind our way out, we won’t take the time to appreciate it and we’ll always hold THAT grudge against you.
This is what go through some children’s mindset, and that parents are hopefully not so stubborn headed that they won’t change no matter what, because if so, you’re only making your life and the childs life more miserable.
These are three parent, child relationship struggles. If there are any more you want to be write about, make sure to leave them in the comments below.
Again, if you do not like this blogpost at all, please just leave. You might have the perfect relationship or just generally don’t like that I am publishing something like this, but this is my blog and I will do whatever I want for reasons of my own.
